Infidelity. The word alone carries a weight that can crush even the strongest of marriages. It’s not just about broken promises—it’s about shattered trust, severed intimacy, and the deep wounds of betrayal. Kath and I know this all too well. Our story, laid bare in Sex on the First Date: Our Story of a Broken Beginning to a Radically Transformed Marriage, is one of repeated infidelity—on both sides. It’s a story of brokenness, yes, but also one of redemption. And if you’re wondering whether love can survive when trust is obliterated, let me tell you—it can. But it takes more than just hope. It takes work. Hard, gut-wrenching work. A Cycle of Betrayal Our marriage didn’t just stumble into infidelity—it lived there for years. Kath confessed
Song of Solomon 4:9 says, “You have made my heartbeat faster, my sister, my bride; you have made my heartbeat faster with a single glance of your eyes.” I can’t read that verse without thinking of Kath. Her eyes have always had a way of stopping me in my tracks. Even now, after all these years, there are moments when she looks at me, and it feels like time slows down. That glance—the one that makes my heart beat faster—is something I’ve come to treasure more deeply as we’ve grown together. But it wasn’t always this way. For so long, I missed the beauty in her gaze because I didn’t know how to see her the way God intended. Kath and I recently started reading
When I first saw Kath, it was at a junior high school track meet where my brother Ned was competing. I was immediately drawn to her physical appearance – she was cute and caught my eye right away. Ned knew who she was because he went to school with her sister. He also knew about my reputation and warned me not to pursue her, saying “Don’t even think about going out with her, Tim. She’s a nice church girl, and you’re not necessarily a good dude – you’re not good. She’s way better than you.” A few weeks later, I saw Kath again at a party near her house. Once again, she caught my attention. I wanted to take her out and get to know her.
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Table of Contents Our Broken Beginning The Hard Truth About Starting Wrong When Reality Hits Home The Breaking Point in Our Marriage The Power of True Forgiveness in Marriage Understanding Real Forgiveness Breaking Through Personal Walls God’s Role in Marriage Transformation Practical Steps to Marriage Restoration Daily Choices That Build Trust The Importance of Open Communication Building New Patterns Together Living Out Forgiveness Daily Making Grace-Filled Choices The Power of Daily Spiritual Practices Creating New Marriage Habits Hope for Your Marriage Journey Embracing God’s Healing Process Moving from Mess to Message Looking Forward with Hope Keys to Lasting Marriage Transformation Daily Practices for Growth Maintaining Spiritual Connection Celebrating Progress Together Let me be brutally honest with you: forgiveness in marriage was not present